She used to find out what the conflict is about and who started it, but found that this is not useful at all when it comes to solcing the conflict and having her children to stop the argument.
Instead she invented some kind of game she calls Getting Back to Love. Playing this game, her children not only learn to express their feelings towards each other, but are also shown quite plainly that negative feelings will increase their distance, while positive feelings will bring them closer together again.
I think this is a beautiful way to solve conflicts, as it helps the arguing parties to step aside and look at what they really feel deep inside. Most of the time they will find that they don’t want to argue, but be nice with each other, because their true feeling is love.
I agree with Erin that this will not only work with children, but is also applicable to adults.
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